Some can stalk a woman for years, request, beg or even cry to get laid, but the moment she gives in to their advances and even insinuates she is ready for the ‘horizontal acrobatics’, they get thrown into panic.
what women think
The general perception among most women is that men are generally randy, experienced lot who have insatiable, greedy fascination for the forbidden fruit and are always itching for a bite.
What, however, many women don’t know is that, odd as it may sound, most men actually fear getting between the sheets.
Apparently, besides panicking, others start sweating or even wet their pants as they worry about many things like whether or not they will measure up to the woman’s expectations in as far as; the size of their ‘dudu’ is concerned; how long what she considers a ‘great love-making session’ should last; whether they have the requisite stamina, speed and styles to satisfy her. Is ‘69’ her favourite number? How do I bring it up or go about the accompanying stall talk without coming off as gross?
Looking ahead on the fears that haunt men before getting between the sheets
Getting naked and politics of size
According to most of the men, fear of getting naked before a woman they have never been intimate with ranks very high.
“Like men, most women, too, watch adult movies and here is where they get the notion that a real man must have a nine inch monster for a satisfying performance,” says Brian, insisting that it’s even worse if
— unlike the ones in blue movies that remain tough as nails for hours, pointing at the ceiling
— yours assumes a curve, ‘dies’ after two minutes or has some ugly circumcision scars!
Fear of performing below par
Fear of leaving their partners unsatisfied always makes men think a lot before getting intimate. Apparently, for the married types, this is one of the reasons they come up with fake headaches.
Lacking porn star quality, styles
Seemingly, every man believes he is great in bed. Others keep improving and boosting their skills by watching adult movies, using it as a benchmark for great performance. Thus, each time before getting between the sheets, they ponder about being judged as lacking porn star quality or credentials.
Failing to rise to the occasion
“The moment a woman give you a ‘yes’ or behaves in a manner likely to suggest she is ready for intimacy, there is always that fear of failing to rise to the occasion or not having a sufficiently stiff one, as it happens to some men. Or experiencing premature ejaculation while still ‘warming up’ even before the big game itself begins,” also initiating the discussion on use of protection.
Consequences and accidents
Hear him: “I once accidentally rammed through the ‘other side’ in the heat of the moment during a wild romp and all of a sudden there was this awkward and embarrassing moment. How about accidentally releasing gas when your partner has gone down on you? The thought of such things happening scares many men.”
Unlike women, who put a relatively high premium on intimacy, a good number of men tend to be very casual about it. So when getting intimate, most worry about the resulting consequences like getting emotionally attached or clung on by a woman.
Madly falling in love with good time girl
“Getting intimate to most women is a big milestone in a relationship, which is never the case with some of us. It really scares the hell out of us. There are women we just chase to satisfy our curiosities or to fulfill our wild fantasies. I, for instance, remember this girl we used to have fun with back in college, the second time we got intimate she thought we were a couple. She became a commitment nazi, we were still in college but she even wanted to meet my parents and family! I freaked out and took off,” says Moses.
For older men, especially bachelors, one question that seemingly nags them each time they are making love is whether they are impotent or are fertile. Knowing that you can bring forth a human being, even if there are no such plans is every man’s pride. Every man is always hoping that he doesn’t shoot blanks.
Some like Kalou, a Kenyan-based Nigeria, the shame of walking from one Chemist to another, looking for medication for an STI make him think a lot before getting in bed with a woman.
“This is one of the things that scare me to death especially if it is happening for the first time and maybe I hadn’t planned well,” says Kalou.
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